What was it, already?! Was it greener? Is it always greener? Could it be greener? Or are you one of those who`ve constantly heard that THE GRASS ISN`T GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE, YOU KNOW !!!! », – and therefore, up until this very day, have been left to believe, – that this is how the saying goes.
Good News. Bad News. Both sayings are alive and well. I mean… what I`m trying to say is that both sayings are accurate! Both exist! (apart from the one guaranteeing you that it`s NOT greener on the other side (!). That was just a version your father invented). And for those who`ve just done Life Transitional Changes. Followed their heart, – after hearing that “The grass is always greener on the other side”. Well. He or she may be experiencing some disappointment, -very, very soon. Because in this beloved country of ours, Norway, this particular phrase, seemingly positively charged, -is only full of irony (!). I have read Oh So Many Columns on the Oh So Famous Grass – and every single one of those having an opinion about the subject, thinks that the grass for the most part is about our penchant for envy. And yes. I, too, can appreciate the “concern”. I get it. I get the idea. From the dawn of time, we have compared ourselves to others. From the dawn of time, this has also been necessary. To survive. To be able to create communities. This is how we have learned. Not only by aping from our parents, but also our neighbour. Our fellow citizen. Our brothers and sisters. It has been necessary and therefore it has also become inherent in all of us. The ability, for better or worse, to paying attention to the neighbour, is biologically conditioned. We can do nothing about it. So, when did this, exactly, become such a bad thing?
As I have written in the past, I am constantly confronted with this holy/bloody gras (choose one). Cause I’m single. Still, single. And No Offence, -but I think it’s fair to say (well. Let us just say it`s an assumption I`m making) that there might be a fair share of people sitting in quite the crap`iest of grass, -be it yellow, brownish or full brown. And who looks at me and thinks; But isn`t it funny! After aaaaall these years, she`s still single (oh, yeah! S-t-i-l-l, single). After aaall these years. So, I guess the grass wasn`t that much greener, anyway (figure I`ll stay, just where I`m at!).
But hey! Folks! Honestly, though. Don`t let yourself get confused by looking at me! I’m just a girl (not yet a woman) with sky-high ambitions! (poor soul). As goes for love, at least. You know, my plan was to stay single aaaall until the right one, showed up. Not just the right one, either. But The One, himself. For Life Transitional Changes. And yes. Sure. I`ll admit it. It’s taken a while. Maybe a bit more, so, -than anticipated. To tell you the truth it`s been quite the rough ride. Hell, at times. But then again. Undeniably, there have been some great moments. Moments, I would never have been without. Some chapters, at least, -filled with joy. Excitement (orgasms, maybe). Like, really good times. But of course. You are perfectly right. I may have forgotten how tiring it can all be, for the closest to me. My circle of friends. My close family. My dear readers. The fact that I can never fully seem to win the match. Or you know. Just Tie That Knot. That must be frustrating, to you. In fact, I’ve lost track of how many well – meaning advices you have come up with, over the years. Not only my surroundings, but my readers too. And I admit it! I have not taken it closely into consideration! It`s the God`s honest truth. I have, in majority of the cases (advices), changed the subject thoroughly. And usually so, into the forecast of thy weather. You know, somehow, I was under the belief that my path, was the right one for me. However, now, I realize that people are tired. They are tired and bored. And after asking me x number of times if women, maybe, could be a thing/ the thing (“Could women be a thing- or the thing?”). That I might have forgotten to consider that (“Might it be, that you have forgotten to consider that?”). My answer is: I have not forgotten to consider that.
Let me just say. It would have been a Blessed Day if all of this mess was due to the fact that I had yet to consider. That I had not been properly aware (by the way, I think those kind of things are hard not to be aware -and I can only hope that people in their late 30s, know which way it turns). So, then, I guess, we have ruled out homosexuality as a cause, too. I guess we are hereby left with “a female who knows what she wants”. Or as society likes to put it; someone who`s been on their own for too long. An old maid. Certainly not a mermaid (!). Cause the possibility of her being a romantic- of her having experienced great love before, and therefore does not want to settle for anything less, -is all quite unimaginable.
One: “Doesn`t she have any bills, then?!”
The other: “Oh, there`s bills ».
And course it is confusing! So you know what?! I’ll try! If it helps, I can enter a 3-star relationship, even today! If it helps people relax. Because there is nothing more, that I want, – than for people to relax. I can find myself a totally okay relationship. With a totally okay fella. Do the couple`s dinners. Some posts. Tag the guy. Show them that «Here, world! I`m doing it, too! ». However, though, I cannot do any promises concerning the timeline of the whole relationship. But we, definitely, have some good couple of weeks in front of us, now. You know. Until I start “sleepwalking” around my house, at night. Not being able to sleep. Just tripping around and tripping around and tripping around. And then, I really don`t know anymore. Because you know what they say – about women without sleep? Ladies without sleep, are like men without ladies.
But back to the saying. What does it mean, exactly? How has it been interpreted over time? That the grass seems to be greener on the other side. Well. The definition, at least, is; “The notion that conditions are better elsewhere than where one is.” That others seems to be better off, than you. That there may be a better partner for you, -somewhere, out there. A better one, -than you have now. That there may be a better job. Than the one you have now. That it certainly looks like everyone has a better job, than you have. In fact, it looks like they have a better life, altogether. And then, in the midst of all these emotions, a breeding ground for envy and jealousy can form. And that, I guess, we can probably agree on, -being somewhat of a bad thing.
I have a confession to make! I gotta be honest with you. I didn`t become single because I wanted to find out if the grass was greener, somewhere else. I changed pastures simply because there were poor growing conditions, where I was at. I ended one relationship after the other because we weren`t a good enough match. Not because I didn`t love them anymore. Not because it was terribly awful. But it just wasn`t good enough – for me. Sometimes, not good enough, for them. I don`t hold the answer. Neither The Truth. The Way. Or the How To. The truth is within yourself (bummer, of course. But that’s how our Creator did it). So! What is good enough for you? What makes you sleep well at night? What makes you feel happy. Happy enough? Satisfied. Satisfied enough?
To be continued (obviously) …